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The Gender Reveal (1)

I am currently 21 weeks pregnant and yesterday we had our gender reveal! The gender of our last bundle of mayhem was something that everyone has been anticipating. The majority of the votes we received were for a boy. Initially me and my beau were are set on being team blue. I mean after all that was the whole reason we even considered trying one last time. We all know that the daddies determine the gender of the baby and mommy doesn’t have much say so in it. After a while, we both started to not really have a preference anymore. For me, it was because I have been incredibly sick battling morning sickness since day one, I stopped giving a damn. I just wanted a healthy baby. When we asked the kids what they would like to have surprisingly, everyone except Cody (and ofcourse Kali and Kendall couldn’t cast their vote), said they wanted another sister. Cody was team blue since day one.

Planning the gender reveal wasn’t too crazy. I knew I wanted something small but unique and since we did a gamer theme for the pregnancy announcement we decided to stick with it. We both love Super Mario, and it was something we could easily do that could be made gender neutral. So I have this thing where I like to pick unique themes, and well the downside to this is, a lot of things have to be custom made, custom ordered from other people, and can add up quickly. Some of the items I was able to find at party stores and online. Some things were free and some things cost a good bit of money but were so worth it! I wasn’t too concerned because this is our last baby so I wanted to make it special but not too over the top.

I had a few monkey wrenches thrown into things because of bad timing, and a series of unfortunate events. One of those unfortunate events was getting sick. My whole house got hit and I was the last casualty. With the flu going around superbad, I decided I needed to take measures to prevent the funk from coming back into my home. We informed those on the guest list if they had been recently ill, that we kindly asked them to stay home. This did alter our guest list a bit but we still ended up with a packed house.

The bad timing aspect, my dress was ordered 3 weeks in advance on Amazon, it was shipped but then it was noted after the fact by the seller that the dress was coming from the United Kingdom! The dress had no tracking and was set to arrive between the 8th and 20th! I was pretty upset about this and as we got closer and closer to the day I realized I had nothing to wear. Ofcourse I have plenty of Mario shirts, but I wanted to wear something special (also I can barely fit the shirts I have). I had a check up with the specialist this week, so after my appointment we set out to find me something to wear. With no luck, I ended up buying a shirt from Box Lunch (the same company I had a horrible online experience with). The sales person said he would hold it at the register because there were two left. One shirt was a men’s medium and would work, and the other on the shelf was a men’s 2x! So I didn’t think to check the sizes or anything when I saw him walk back to the register with the shirt because obviously I needed the medium and I had sat it ON TOP of the other shirt.

We had lunch and then decided it was best just to buy the damn shirt. The shirt was a little pricey for what it was and I wasn’t too happy about that. We get back home, and the mail had been dropped off….guess what was in the mail…MY DRESS…..I had just spent almost 40 bucks on a damn tshirt for nothing. I figured well the shirt isn’t too bad and I like cool tees so I might as well keep it. Well I am counting my lucky stars…this person picked up the 2x shirt instead of the medium shirt not paying attention….so if the dress wasn’t here I would have been screwed because the shirt was beyond too big. My husband didn’t like the shirt so I shoved it back into the bag with the receipt mad as hell and plan on returning it when I have my next appointment. So the dress was an XL but kind of stretchy so I knew it would work with my baby bump. Well it was a bit snug because of my boobs. My boobs have really blown up this pregnancy. This dress that would normally fall above my knees, fit like a tunic top…leggings saved the day.

We were supposed to start things at 4pm, but unfortunately, I woke up at 8:30am battling horrible morning sickness. Fine time for this to happen. I was literally sick all day long. My beau had to do a lot on his own and I had to help and prepare things as much as I could in between being sick. I ended up super exhausted and what wasn’t done at this point just didn’t happen. I took my morning sickness meds and couldn’t keep them down. I lost my appetite and basically I survived off ice chips and I had a ginger ale.

This pregnancy has def given me a big new found respect for those mamas who have Hyperemesis gravidarum because Jesus can take the whole transmission (forget taking the wheel). People were showing up and I looked like pure shxt. I wasn’t dressed at all and was still running around preparing stuff. I eventually called it quits and went upstairs to get ready. I wasn’t as glammed up as I planned to be, but I made the best of things and fixed myself up the best I could with what little energy I had left, in order to conceal the way I was really feeling. Hubby felt bad because essentially I had to suffer through the party because I felt so bad, but I kept a smile on my face and was very happy to see my family and friends.

Here are some pics of the decorations from the gender reveal

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I kept the menu very simple but yet filling since we were feeding a crowd. The menu consisted of: baked Penne pasta, Hawaiian sweet rolls, pasta salad, regular salad, and cocktail meatballs. We picked up a few pizzas for the children who were attending. I wanted something a little different from the typical party foods since the reveal took place during the evening.

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We also had a sweets table that included: an assortment of candy, custom cookies, custom Rice Krispy treats, and cupcakes made by yours truly.

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Custom Rice Krispy Treats by: ARcloud Cakes . Cupcakes and sweets table set up done by me

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Custom cookies made by: The New York Cookie Boutique

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We also had beer, water with custom labels, and pink and blue sodas (Fanta).

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For games, I kept it simple. I utilized the internet and found a lot of printable ideas and also came up with a few of my own. I really don’t care too much for cliche games so we picked some challenging ones. One of the games, our guest had to take a piece of paper and a marker and place the paper on their foreheads and draw a portrait of our baby. Most of the portraits looked like they belonged in a lab somewhere in a Petri Dish.

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When it came time to actually reveal things, I opted for a confetti popper. I purchased the popper on Etsy.com from Poof There It Is.

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Then came the moment of truth….The BIG reveal…

There was one (or two) tiny details we left out about the gender reveal. We revealed the gender and we also revealed that we are in fact expecting TWINS!

We had a few people who had to leave early, but the party favors spilled the beans as well. So they weren’t left out of the surprise. The party favors were custom pub style drinking glasses that featured a girl version of the character Toad as well as the twin announcement.

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After the shock factor wore off, we thanked everyone for coming and for their generous gifts for our twincesses and their contributions to my booze stash!

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We couldn’t have asked for a better gender reveal despite the challenges we had to overcome!

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When Plans Change

When Plans Change (1)

So remember how a few months back I wrote the piece Last baby sadness? we made the decision not to get the vasectomy done this past March after we had Kendall. Kendall turned out to be a girl and we both kind of wanted another boy. Since we are financially able and such, we both weighed pros and cons and ultimately decided  “screw it” let’s shoot for one more and then call it quits. I mean after all we have five kids already so what’s one more? So with the vasectomy cancelled, we set plans for our last baby for sometime next year. I wanted to be done with this portion of school in April and take a break. Although I wanted to be done having babies before my 30th (next August), I figured I could always celebrate a little later if things didn’t work out how we planned. Well, my body decided to say f what you have planned.

 

So August, I had big plans for my birthday since I was turning 29. I had plans to basically go all out and have fun and get shxt-faced; all that good stuff. Well August arrived and I basically skipped a cycle. I was so worried I was possibly pregnant then because I had just stopped breastfeeding and felt like my birthday plans would be ruined.  My cycle window came and went so I tested it was negative, life was great. I had a pretty wild party and had the time of my life and everyone swore up and down I was going to get knocked up from birthday sex. NOPE!

September came and my cycle decided to return with a vengeance.  It was like the apocalypse of all cycles. My body had to make up for the skipped cycle I guess.  I survived. hmm

After the cycle from hell, we rolled into October and everything seemed back to normal. It has already been concluded that I have an irregular cycle so I was expecting my period to come at a certain point but I always give it an entire week to see which day it is going to rear its ugly head. The week of my cycle arrived. I was prepared to embrace whatever mother nature’s bxtch ass threw at me. I felt a little weird the first few days before it was due and I know that weird feeling all too well. So I decided to buy a cheap ass test to see. Well it was negative. I was super crampy the next day and felt like an idiot having wasted a few bucks on a test and went ahead and got a box of pads and all my other monthly goodies. I use the period panties by THINX but not on certain days when it is due because I can’t always gauge if it is going to be a shxtty cycle or not. So I diaper it up until I see which level of doom I am at. So being that I had tested 4 days prior I had thought nothing of the fact my cycle had not arrived yet. I was beyond crampy and felt like pure shxt so I just knew it was coming. Well my suspicion was raised when we had to make a trip to the store so hubby could return a Redbox rental. He had an issue with the one he received out of the machine so he needed to address the issue with customer service. I wanted to look around, so I left him to do his business and went to the other side of the store. As I was walking by, a stinky old man passed me by and I almost puked everywhere.

WTH? I thought, and then it clicked. You need to take another pregnancy test. I thought about all of the crazy pork rinds (I call them skins) that I had been devouring and how I haven’t eaten them in years and the crazy obsession with lemonade I had been having. I jetted to the aisle where they were and snatched a Clear Blue Digital off the shelf.  I went to self check out and tossed it in the diaper bag and suffered through the rest of the shopping trip. Hubby ended up having to leave to take Kendall to a doctor’s appointment so I debated on taking it that day or waiting until the next morning while he was at work to take it. I was nervous as hell for some reason. I thought it wouldn’t be a good idea to take it the same day because I had already emptied my bladder and I wasn’t technically late yet. When we got home it was like the test was calling my name from the diaper bag. “take me”….So once hubby left I continued working on a cake order and then I caved. I ran upstairs and locked myself in the bathroom and took the test. I didn’t think it would work because my little pee sample was pretty pathetic lol. But nonetheless it immediately started blinking that it was working! The test was supposed to countdown and flash four bars before the results.

Well this shxt flashed two bars and BOOM! PREGNANT!

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I sat in the bathroom for a while to process things and then for whatever reason I sat in my huge walk in closet staring at the test (don’t ask). I immediately thought about how I was going to tell him. I really didn’t plan this far ahead. I didn’t think things would happen so soon. So I put the test in the top drawer of my nightstand and went back downstairs with my heart racing. My hubby eventually returned home and told me about Kendall’s appointment, but he had also stopped by our favorite liquor store and picked up a butt ton of craft beer. Craft beer that I could not drink because ya know I was like 2 hours pregnant. I decided I needed to tell him. So I sent him on a dummy mission to retrieve something from upstairs and quickly set up my phone to record me telling him. Something I have never done before.

Once I had the phone hidden and at the right angle I told him nevermind about the nonexistent item I needed from upstairs. He came back down stairs, in a panic I asked him to help me cut out something for the cake I was working on. As he was working on that I ran upstairs to get the test. I didn’t think this through at all. I had nowhere to put the test because my yoga pants had no pockets! I shoved it in the band behind me and ran back down stairs. I was shaking lol I was so nervous to tell him (IDK why). So I started the convo off pretty casual and mentioned that we needed to return back to the store for a 3rd time (when we returned the rental that was our second time at the store). So he wasn’t really paying me any attention. So I told him I forgot something and mentioned prenatal vitamins. He took a second and then he asked “you’re pregnant?” and I showed him the test. Pretty lame way to tell him but it was still super cute. Now recording his reaction I was not sure what to expect. I figured either he’s going to cuss a lot out of excitement or say something off the wall. But his reaction made me tear up because it was just too damn cute. He was so overjoyed and happy and is still as excited about things 14 weeks later.

Now the following day was Friday October 13th. We were supposed to go to my friend’s house for a little onesie Friday the 13th party to watch scary movies and celebrate Halloween approaching. I knew there would be lots of alcohol consumed because that is what we do when we get together. We talked about it and made the decision to tell our small circle of buddies the news! In which they thought it was a joke at first!

So only a few people knew that we were expecting again, and lots of people had been asking me if I was the past few weeks but I kind of left a small trail of breadcrumbs but didn’t really tell anyone if I was or not. We decided we would wait for the right time to spill the beans to the world and everyone else. This baby did come as a surprise as far as timing goes but I am not complaining. I say I am not complaining because I am due in June and my 30th birthday is in August. So guess who still gets to get shxt-faced on their 30th bday next year!? This girl! I won’t be back summer time fine by then but I will make the postpartum body work. My due date is set for June 18th which is the day after my beloved granddaddy’s birthday. I know he is up in heaven smiling with his Atlanta Braves cap on and saying “that’s alright” which was something he said no matter what it was that you told him. It is still a little unreal that we are expecting our last baby finally!  It’s bittersweet and unexpected, and that’s alright!

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